As teenagers spend more time communicating from behind the screen — updating and keeping up with feeds from Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and other social platforms, they have less time to reflect on their behavior or understand the impact of their continued reliance on their peers and the internet for guidance and identity.
As parents, we know this can be devastating for their personality development and grooming. However, for that we need to gain insights into their day-today lives, and hence a window into their social life in the digital world. The problem is that there is no direct way of accessing their online activity.
This is where android and iPhone spy software like Auto Forward come into play.
The Problem — Invasion of Privacy
No android and iPhone spy software can be installed remotely. This means that the software has to be personally installed on the smartphone. And given that teenagers are think of their smartphones as an extension of their selves, there is no way to find it untended and install the app.
This is where the problem arises: almost every teenager will consider installation of spy software as an invasion of their privacy. It is similar to saying “I do not trust you”, unless you have sat them down and shared your concerns and discussed the need for installing the software. There are primarily two ways you can do that: the harsh and easy way, and the hard but long way.
Method #1 — Under the Umbrella
You might have had to ground your teenagers by now. This method is similar to that. You simply remind your teenagers who’s boss i.e. who has been paying the bills, who owns the house, who’s legal responsibility they are, and under whose roof (umbrella) they are enjoying all the activities that they have been enjoying so far.
You simply inform them that this is the way it has to be done, that it is for their own good, and that you want know how they are using the internet so that you may guide them.
Method #2 — Building a Relationship
This is about establishing, nurturing, and sustaining an open communication channel between you and your teenagers. It will not happen over a week or a month even. You have to sit them down and discuss stories you may heard about other kids and what your teens think of it, and not installing a spy software.
You have to engage them in a discussion and slowly guide them to a conclusion about cyber bullying, scams and frauds, how at times peer pressure can be harmful, your concern for their safety, and how you hope to be more involved. To dim the backlash, you can agree upon a schedule where they can share their day-to-day experiences and under what circumstances you will check their activity (health, and certain attitude and behaviors).
Groom your teens by keeping track of their online activity (even the one they have deleted) by installing robust Android and iPhone spy software.